Mxstress Vex

Professional Dominatrix,
Pleasure Educator & Advocate




Silver Tongue.
Iron Fist.

The Gold Standard of Domination.


Learn more about booking a session with Philadelphia's premier pro-dom & fetish facilitator



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About Mx Vex

Hello, I'm Mx Vex, purveyor of radical pleasure & virtuosic BDSM that blurs the lines between kink, art, theatre, philosophy, and eroticism.


With over 8 years of experience in the adult industry and a prestigious career as an internationally-touring, award-winning multidisciplinary performance artist and theatre producer, My enthralling style of Domination is unmatched.My background lends itself to facilitating fully immersive sessions that could easily be mistaken as works of embodied art. My razor-sharp wit combined with innovative fetish gear and cutting-edge techniques results in extraordinary trysts unlike anything you've ever experienced.
I will sweeten your dreams, spice up your nightmares, and help you feel alive like never before.
I will take your hand and guide you to a new realm of ecstasy... or bind you and drag you there, if that is preferred.
To serve Me is to not only indulge your greatest fantasies, but to expand your capacity for pleasure.
I provide thorough communication at every step of the booking process to ensure My sessions are as risk-aware and affirming as possible for clients of all identities and backgrounds.
I prioritize consent and the well-being of My clients, regardless of experience level.
I work meticulously to uphold privacy, best practices, and discretion for all bodies and minds who seek to session with Me.
Whether this will be your very first time exploring kink or your newest adventure in a lifetime of BDSM, I assure you will exit My sessions feeling physically renewed and emotionally unrestrained, begging for more, and more, and more...


I will transform you into a Radical Permissionist- a person unafraid of pursuing pleasure, embracing the power of the erotic, and releasing inhibitions to become the most authentic version of yourself.

"Thank you for allowing me to share space with you... It was nice to interact with someone being true to Their identity and not bending to some “male fantasy norm”... The body awareness/connection was an experience not typical to sessions in the past and was a welcome addition. I hope to spend time in Your company at some point again in the future." - J

"Had a session with Mx Vex recently, 90 minute fantasy wrestling. Vex is one of the most unique and fun experiences I’ve ever had with sessions. Every moment was tantalizing and the communication was top notch. We sat down prior to the session to discuss comfort zones, and They respected them perfectly. They have an enchanting body and are surprisingly strong, and if you’re not careful you’ll find yourself struggling against their figure. Setting up the session was a breeze. Will absolutely be sessioning with again." - TK, sessiongirls

"I wanted to thank you again for holding space for such a wonderful session. I absolutely loved the unique mix of feeling completely embodied, but also somehow able to express my feelings and sensations out loud. I've never experienced anything like that before and it's pretty transcendent." - A

My Identity & Presentation

How My queerness and style come into play...


I do not discriminate who I choose to session with based on age, race, religion, gender, sexuality, presentation, or ability. I embrace those who live with intersections of marginalized identities.
I also embrace those who do not.
Furthermore, I expect all prospective clients to respect My identities and protocols.

I am Queer. I am attracted to people regardless of gender or presentation. My attraction does not play a role in who I choose to session with. My Queerness does inform the lens through which I view BDSM. The late Bell Hooks defined Queerness as "the self which is constantly at odds with everything else." A word loaded with a history of pain, but also a word of reclamation, resistance, and a celebration of difference.

I am Non-Binary and Transmasculine.
You may use They/Them pronouns and masculine or gender-neutral titles when referring to Me.
I do not identify as a "Femdom, female, woman, or Goddess."
I do not care if, due to My appearance, you "see Me as a woman." While you are serving Me, you will respect My complexity, just as I will respect yours. I embody both masculine and feminine features, however I have always been more deeply connected to masculinity. I started testosterone on Jan 1, 2022 as part of My gender affirmation journey; being on this medication does not affect My sessions.
My physical appearance will gradually change over the years.
I assure you, I will only get hotter (perhaps much to your grief, confusion, and/or arousal).

I am Neurodivergent. My brain chemistry does not have a distinguishable affect on sessions; I provide this information in the hopes that if you need alternative ways of communicating or navigating sessions, that you will feel more comfortable being transparent about your needs, knowing that I will not judge or disregard you.
I am an advocate for the full decriminalization of sex work and substance use.
Decrim allows both providers and clients to fulfill their needs without fear of violence or repercussions from the state. I dedicate a significant amount of time and volunteer labor to advocacy, harm reduction, and mutual aid in PHL and beyond; reach out via My socials if you wish to do the same.

Domination & Fetish Facilitation


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Activities & Interests

My favorite types of sessions...


As kink and fetish is a wide-ranging practice, if you do not see your interest listed below, please feel free to request it in your application and I will let you know if it is something I offer.You are welcome to bring any personal items, such as toys, you'd like to use during our sessions, so long as you take responsibility for its care and cleaning.

Body & Clothing Worship

My voluptuous ass, ultra flexible limbs, and petite size 5 feet (whether bare or tucked into a luxurious pair of stockings, velour heels, or dirty Doc Martins) are just a few of the wondrous parts of My body and closet awaiting your devotion. The beauty of My muscles sculpted by decades of athleticism, smooth skin moisturized to perfection, armpits slick with sweat, and array of strap-ons are sure to make your mouth water and eyes glisten from the glee of serving Me.

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Tease & Denial

Bondage & Mummification

There is nothing more beautiful than a submissive bound and positioned perfectly to allow Me access to all the most sensitive areas of the body and mind. Whether you fancy cuffs and spreaders, plastic wrap, predicament traps, stockades, rope, 360 wheels of doom, or a traditional St. Andrews, I have a million more delicious ways to incapacitate you.

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Confinement & Caging

Impact Play

Oh, let Me count the ways I can make you scream for Daddy... spanking, caning, paddling, slapping, whipping, flogging, punching, stomping!
Stingy and thuddy, fast and slow, I have so many ways to make you "OH!"

You may also be interested in CBT & CBB

Erotic Ritual & Sac/Religious Play

As a person who was forcefully indoctrinated into extreme southern christianity at a young age, rituals and cults have always fascinated Me. I enjoy devising elaborate scenes that incorporate aesthetics and procedures of organized religion, such as exorcisms, guided manifestations, and ceremonies of pleasure. I'm even ordained to deliver sermons and officiate weddings, baptisms, alternative ceremonies and more.

Sensory Play

Wax, blades, ice, oils, blindfolds, feathers, pins, pillowcases, and bar soap are just a few of the unassuming items I can use to relax, invigorate, or torture you. Not to mention My collection of special toys and tools, ranging from contraptions I craft by hand, to elite, custom-made fetish gear and furniture.

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Nipple & Tickle Torture

Emotional & Psychological Play

Nothing pleases Me more than degrading, humiliating, interrogating, and fucking with your mind. There has never been an argument I haven't won, so don't dare try to pick a fight; My ruthless, quick wit and silver tongue can cut deeper than even the sharpest knife in My arsenal. The depths of My amber irises serve as an ode to Medusa, with the power to hypnotize or turn you to stone, and beware of My cheeky smile and subconscious hum... this is how you know I'm really about to have My fun, usually at the expense of your psyche.Conversely, My praise holds just as much, if not more, potency. My sweet whispers and the mantras I impart will ring in your ears for years to come, relieving you of anxiety and forever guiding you towards a more radically permissive and pleasure-centered life.

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Hypnosis

Couples & Group Play

Looking to explore new interests, strengthen your bond, or try different methods of communicating with your partner? I love guiding couples, groups, and polycules through kinky excursions.

You may also be interested in Cuckholding

Gender/Sexuality
Exploration & Fuckery

As a Q/T Dom, gender fuckery is My forte. I have a special place in My heart for sissies, femmes, trans clients, and those seeking an experience beyond the binary and society’s expectations. You do not have to identify with any particular label to engage in this type of play.Subverting or "fucking" the standards of cis/hetero-normative society can include playing with queerness and/or gender expansion through dressing up, roleplaying, and/or deconstructing the rules, roles, and expectations forced upon many of us related to sex. Through this practice, you can choose to lean into and embrace these ideals and aesthetics, or release them.

You may also be interested in Anal Play

Flexibility, Strength Training, & Sensual Acrobatics

As an award-winning acrobat, coach, and former competitive gymnast, My stretching and strength building sessions are founded on a thorough knowledge of anatomy and safety. My partner acrobatics sessions center presence, alignment, healthy risk-taking, and focus. The full limits of your mental and physical capacity will be revealed as we move together towards positions of balance and support. These offerings are sure to awaken kinesthetic abilities you didn't even know you were capable of- no previous athletic experience is required.

Fantasy Fetish Wrestling

The style and reflexes of a matador. The sleek strength, raw power, and rebellious energy of a bull. Captivating somatic tension and a sculpted body that could rival those of Greek deities captured in marble. If you’re seeking a unique, petite, playful fantasy wrestling partner, I have everything you’re looking for and so much more. My particular affinity for creative blood choking and intrinsic competitive energy will leave you simultaneously enervated, invigorated, and feeling alive like never before.*I offer KOs to experienced clients and can lift & carry up to 160lbs. I do not offer competitive sessions.

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Smothering, Breathplay, and Blood Chokes

Golden Showers & FTT

Seeing My waste fulfilling your dirtiest wishes brings Me great pleasure! My arsenal of creative water sport games will highlight the most exciting shower experience of your life. Ask Me about bringing along friends to enjoy a flight of golden delight- what better way to spend the weekend than a piss bang?
Or perhaps you want to go all the way and become My full toilet to enjoy fresh, velvety, rich morsels, straight from My body to yours. *Please note FTT sessions will require an additional fee starting in 2023.

Pet Play

I absolutely adore training, grooming, and playing with pups, ponies, kittens, and even exotic pets! My background in pre-professional animal care lends itself to creating the most authentic pet experiences.

Food Play

My food play sessions take oral erotica to an entirely new level. I offer force-feeding, sploshing, “baby birding,” mukbangs, and select off-body dining.

Role Play, Cosplay, &
Immersive Fantasy

As a professional actor, I am always prepared to dive deep into the depths of your roleplay, whether that involves a devious doctor, school disciplinarian, authority figure, religious icon, celebrity, or something more uncanny.Nothing is hotter than a geeky Mxtress, and highlighting My comic book, anime, sci-fi, horror, and fantasy expertise during sessions really turns Me on. Have you ever dreamed of being interrogated, mentored, teased, bewitched, bullied, or pleasured by your favorite fantasy character? It's time to star in your own original erotica. With My extensive collection of props, costumes, and spfx, I'm ready to transport you across a multiverse of kink.

Voyeurism

Watch and revel as I go about My routine- getting ready, bathing, shaving, working out, cleaning equipment, making calls, and generally ignoring you to focus on day-to-day or Dom-specific tasks. If you're lucky, perhaps you can even make a cameo by delivering My food order or dry cleaning.

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Objectification & Human Furniture


Limits

Soft Limits

I will only engage in these interests with experienced players or established clients:
age play, extreme electro, extreme anal, needles, sounding, kidnapping, key holding, fire play, and suspension.

Hard Limits

I do NOT engage in any of the following types of play. Inquiries for any of the following will not receive a response:
AB/DL, bestiality or harm to animals, intoxication before or during play, race play, roman or ruby showers, fantasy r*pe / sexual CNC, "topping from the bottom."

I do NOT offer

switching, subbing, intercourse, "jobs", or contact with My genitals.
You may NEVER touch, bite, kiss or lick My face, neck, chest, or genitals. Any direct contact with My body must be negotiated before each session.
Consent for any act may be revoked by any participant, at any time.

Session Rates

In person sessions are held in a luxurious, private space
in Center City Philadelphia


All sessions require a 25% deposit to be confirmed. Deposits are accepted via Cashapp or Amazon e-gift card. My rates are non-negotiable.
60 Minutes - $360
90 Minutes - $500
2 Hours - $660
3 Hours - $900
For couples & groups- add $100/additional person/hour
Inquire for details on extended sessions, FMTY, overnights, and 24+ hour experiences.
In-session extensions available subject to My availability and schedule of the space.

Particularly extreme activities that require special equipment, multiple spaces, or have an effect on My health may require an additional fee, which would be disclosed before confirming a booking.
Cancellation Policy: If you need to reschedule a session, please notify Me immediately. Deposits for cancellations up to 24 hours in advance of a session will apply towards a rescheduled session. There are absolutely no refunds or deposit transfers for no-call, no-shows. Deposits are non-refundable.

Session Rates

Introductions, Dates, & Digital Sessions


All sessions require a 25% deposit to be confirmed.
Deposits are accepted via Cashapp or Amazon e-gift card.

Introductory Phone Call - $25 / 15 minutes
Introductory Zoom Meeting - $50 / 40 minutes
Breakfast, Lunch, Dinner, or Coffee- $100/Hour + cost of the meal
Cam Session- $200/ 40 minutes
Phone Session- $3/Minute
Texting Session- $4/Minute
Shopping Trip - Minimum $300 for Me to spend + coffee/tea or lunchKinky Shopping Trip - $200 tribute + minimum $200 for Me to spend at a local adult shop. Includes a 30 minute session to "break in" the new purchases.

Education & Events

Expand your kink knowledge, hone new skills, & elevate your entertainment...


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As an educator, My methodology is grounded in providing consent-centered and identity-affirming learning environments that support students’ full autonomy over their engagement as we work towards their goals. My experience as a coach across an array of athletic and erotic disciplines lends itself to providing detail-oriented instruction founded on a thorough knowledge of technique, risk assessment, and unintentional injury-prevention.
I aim to offer courses that are as accessible- financially, physically, and cognitively- as possible. My classes balance theory with hands-on practice and provide students with tangible resources and exercises to continue their learning.

While I am extraordinarily comfortable, and charming, when speaking in a lecture setting, I favor facilitating environments of communal sharing. I uplift the notion that every person posses valuable knowledge and experiences, and that no one person, including Myself, should be seen as a monolith or singular master over any subject or discipline.
I endeavor to exemplify qualities of the educators who inspire Me: remaining eager to learn and share new information, open to experimentation, transparent about the limits of their expertise, and supportive of their novice and seasoned peers alike.

Education

To inquire about any of My educational offerings, reach out to edu@mxvex.com.
Requests for Domination sessions will NOT be accepted at this email.


Workshops & Presentations

I offer classes, workshops, and micro-retreats centered around any of the activities listed in My Domination interests section, catered to the skill level and goals of the audience. As a professional actor and theatre-maker, I love facilitating workshops that blend My expertise such as scene crafting, storytelling through kink, "gamifying" fetish, and Domination improvisation. Additionally, I offer theory-based presentations on My approach to D/s communication, consent, best-practices, gender expansive Domination, identity exploration, pleasure-focused sex education, the politics of sex work and Decriminalization, and My philosophy of "Radical Permission." "Soft skill" classes can also be scaled to suit attendee experience and aspirations.I have experience as an educator in university, medical, conference, and corporate settings, in addition to more "traditional" pleasure education settings such as sex shops, dungeons, and clubs. Most recently, I was a featured presenter at Temple University speaking about sex worker specific healthcare needs to multiple years of medical students.Interested in education around a topic not mentioned? Reach out! Even if your objectives are outside of My realm of expertise, I am happy to connect you with other educators and digital resources that cater to your needs.

Personalized Coaching

It is common for erotic laborers to take on a therapeutic role in the lives of their patrons, as it is imperative to build a foundation of healthy communication and trust between a provider and client. As a pro-Dominant, I have extensive experience with supporting people from all walks of life as they work towards expanding their sensual, sexual, emotional, and social capacity. I offer personal coaching to singles, couples, and polycules seeking an open-minded mediator, sex educator, or supportive figure in their life.
I AM NOT A LICENSED THERAPIST, NOR A SOCIAL WORKER OR MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL OF ANY KIND.
I DO NOT OFFER OR PROVIDE THERAPY SERVICES.

What I do provide is an environment where you will be free to express yourself without judgment. I can act as a listening ear and sounding board for your questions and concerns, and offer My individual perspective or education within the realms of My knowledge and experience. I can provide support with processing challenging emotions. I can offer you the experience of a trusting relationship, camaraderie, and accountability, as well as potential relief from feelings of shame, guilt, indecision, or fear related to sexuality, identity, and relationships.

Mentorship

Interested in pursing a career as an erotic professional? I have nearly a decade of experience across multiple sectors of the industry, and love to share what I've learned and applied to My practice, as well as the resources and peers that I uplift and continue to learn from. I am open to negotiating custom mentorship arrangements for workers at all stages of their career.

Events


Multidisciplinary Performance & Public Speaking

In addition to My work as a pro-Dominant, I continue My career as an established, award-winning multidisciplinary performance artist, acrobat, and theatre producer. I have devised and performed numerous critically-acclaimed, genre-defying full length theatre shows, in addition to providing commissioned work for some of the nation's most prestigious cultural institutions. I have extensive experience entertaining for corporate moguls and cabaret audiences alike, and have produced hundreds of other independent artists' work for thousands of audience members across Philadelphia and beyond.As you can probably tell, I'm not shy on stage. If you're in need of a public speaker or MC, I will charm the pants right off of your audiences, just as I will tug their heartstrings, spark their motivation, and induce them to take action.I prefer to keep My performance and production work separate from Domination, due to the scale at which I dedicate Myself to both of these careers. However, I am not shy about My "double lives" mingling; if you are interested in hiring Me as a performer, producer, or artistic consultant, reach out to book@mxvex.com.

Contact, Booking Process, & Protocols


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Booking Process

Indulge your greatest desires with Phila's premier provider...


Applying for a session with Mx Vex is as easy as 1, 2, 3!1. Review My session protocols (below).

2. Complete and submit a new client application form by clicking the button below or this link: tinyurl.com/bookvex

3. Wait patiently for an email from My client-only address ending in @mxvex.com. If accepted, I will be in touch to schedule your session.
If you are submitting ID for vetting, be prepared to send that information once I reach out for scheduling. Please be deposit ready.You must be 21 years of age or older and able to provide informed consent to submit a session request.

Contact

All the ways we can connect...


To request an in-person or digital session, see My booking process below.To message or call Me directly with questions or custom content requests, reach out via Niteflirt.Fellow SWs can message Me through Twitter or Instagram.
I do not accept session requests through social media.
Requests for educational events that do NOT involve play- such as classes, workshops, mentorship, performances, and public speaking- can be sent to edu@mxvex.com.


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Appreciation


Tips and gifts are always appreciated!
I'm fond of fine whiskeys, fresh flowers, and gifts that help Me feel good, look good, and ascend...

E-gift cards can be sent to gift@mxvex.com. Some services I enjoy are:
American Airlines, Airbnb, Aerial Essentials, Four Seasons Resorts, and Meesha Aesthetics.

Session Protocols

You must review this page carefully, in its entirety, before applying to session.


Before submitting your application:

1.Review My interests and limits. Requests for activities that I explicitly say I do not provide will be discarded; My boundaries are non-negotiable. If at any time you attempt to “bait and switch” the session, touch My body without consent, or otherwise act against My boundaries, the session will be stopped immediately and you will be banned from seeing Me again.2. Review My rates and cancellation policy, and prepare your deposit.3. Prepare your vetting information. Vetting is non-negotiable, for our safety and pleasure. Protecting both of our privacy, maintaining discretion, and mitigating risk are top priorities to Me. None of your personal information will ever be downloaded or distributed, privately or publicly!
I offer two simple methods for vetting (and do not accept alternatives):
-Provide references to previous providers, including Their names AND emails.
-Alternatively, provide a clear, well lit, legible photo of you holding your ID next to your face. Photo, name, and birthdate must be visible. For additional security, you may submit this photo via a Google drive link and delete the document once I have cleared you.

4. Familiarize yourself with My titles. You may address Me with masculine or gender-neutral titles (such as Mx, Master, Sir, God, Daddy, Boss etc) and use pronouns They/Them. You may respectfully request to refer to Me by alternative titles in your application, which I will approve or deny before our session. I will only refer to you with the names/titles/pronouns you prefer. For more information on My identity, click here.

Once our session is scheduled and I have received your confirmation, I will provide you with location details.
Review the following before our session:

1. Please arrive promptly on time, neither early nor late, unless instructed otherwise during our communications. I will greet you and guide you to the space.

2. Be prepared to present the remaining tribute balance in an unsealed envelope once we enter the building.

3. Arrive mentally and physically prepared for our session. Good hygiene is expected, exceptional hygiene is strongly preferred. I favor clients who arrive with fresh breath and tidy hair, soon after showering (taking care to really scrub anything you want Me to touch, and completing a douche or enema if relevant to the session). I do not appreciate strong smells such as heavy cologne or smoke. The dungeon I work in is fully equipped with bathrooms and showers you may use as needed. Any time you take to change or shower must happen during, not in addition to, our scheduled time together.

4. Do NOT arrive under the influence of drugs or alcohol. While I strongly support the full decriminalization of drugs, I uphold this protocol for our safety.

5. If you are experiencing any symptoms of illness, reach out immediately to reschedule your session. All parties must be well to play. I am fully up-to-date on My vaccines, including the most recent Covid-19 booster.
6. Every session begins and ends with a check-in and brief discussion to review limits, desires, and safety procedures. I work to ensure sessions are as risk-aware and affirming as possible for clients of all identities and experiences. My sessions center consent-focused communication.
Consent for any act may be revoked by any participant, at any time.

7. I understand you are placing your trust in me as a professional, and I do not hold this lightly. I am happy to answer any questions you have regarding safety procedures. Entering into a session with a Dominant presents inherent risks that may bring forth complex sensations and emotions. I will check in throughout the session at appropriate moments to make sure you are okay, set aside time for aftercare, and offer an open line of communication for feedback. Furthermore, I will never take or share details or documentation of our sessions, privately or publicly, without your explicit consent.
If you have ANY questions or concerns before, during, or after a session, I encourge you to communicate your needs!